Our community

This is a post about our community, about who we are and what unites us. This is an opportunity to introduce myself and explain my reasons for being here. I want us to learn from each other. I want us to discuss how we can get inspired and live our passions, and also how we can balance dreams and reality.

Who we are

We are the women who care about elegance and style and this is neither our profession nor our only concern. We strive to balance those in a full life with limited resources.

We live complicated lives. We have a job full of demands, a partner that expects us to be superheroes and serene at the same time, we have children that need our care.

We desire to do our best

  • to do great at work and look the part every day. Own the perfect look, and the right set of skills for that promotion
  • to host dinners with home cooked goods without losing composure
  • to organise the loveliest party with a personal touch, care, attention
  • to attend family gatherings of any kind without losing our temper while wearing the right attire

Introducing myself

I am here to provide a platform for our explorations, for our communication, for sharing tips and ideas. I am here to discuss balance  and the challenges it poses. I will review books on our favourite subject, style, and post my notes on a separate page in this blog. Next week I plan to post my thoughts on my favourite book so far! It’s a surprise! I have read quite a few already but feel free to make suggestions; I’d love to read them all.

In this blog you will find tips and posts about organising a beautiful party without losing your mind. I will also provide an outline for scheduling the preparations. The focus is on delivering without forgetting about yourself. To remember the food, the decor, the dress, and also to breathe.

Sharing our passions

I want us to get to know each other, exchange notes and ideas. Find the images that inspire us in books, magazines and online and share them. I want to discuss ways to live our passion.

Firstly, choose to live your passion!  Then you will find the way. Make it a priority and form your world accordingly.

Practically this means create room for your passion, in your mind and in your life.  For me that means clearing my office space from old school books and redundant notes, and putting in a bookcase. I want it to be red. And then I absolutely need to place an inspiration board above that bookcase. I can almost see my board full of pictures of colourful china, tranquil rooms and outfits that take me places.

On balancing dreams and reality

How do we do all that in a complicated life with complicated finances?

Balance comes into play here. There is much to say about finding balance. Lots of posts will follow on this topic as it constantly intrigues me.

I will be writing lots about balancing the options and choosing the best one for you. About disentangling yourself from perfectionism and choosing the solution that is right for you.

The tailor made version of things that compliments your character, and lets you shine through the adversities and the challenges of everyday life.

The main thing is to stay focused

Don’t forget what’s important to you

Go for the little things every day. One step at a time, only make sure you remember where you are going.

Finale

 It is evident that this is about belonging, about common ideas, and common priorities.

It would be amazing to take this community forward and empower each and every one of us. Drive progress and improvement with tips and ideas.

For our peace of mind and our styling choices

For our presence in the outside world and inside our minds

For our fulfilment and happiness and love for ourselves and others.

Receiving feedback would be amazing so please send me your comments using the reply button below. Thank you so much!

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How to find balance and peace and be authentic

 Balance is about peace and fairness

A state where all elements have been considered; all the different facts and opinions and feelings.

There are three distinct areas in our lives where balance can be of use:

  • our inner world
  • family relations
  • the society around us, be it politics in the office or government

 

Our inner world

It is so important that we are in peace with ourselves

I strongly feel the need to be in peace with myself, in my effort to be good to others.

  • I want to eat the cake, but be thin as well
  • I want to party all the time, but read all the books as well
  • I want to have a killer career, but never get out of bed
  • I also want a super healthy body, but never set foot in the gym

Easy, huh?

It took me years of conflict, to realise that yes, I can have it all. We can have it all; it’s all about balance. Give and take.

Stay in bed longer during weekends and not every day. Eat cake ever so often and not with each meal, visit the dreaded gym twice a week, and not every day. Read the self development book with all the wonderful tips about time management – even if it is for 15 min in the evening. By the way, 15min is still more than nothing!

Wouldn’t it be great if we could be in peace with our inner demons and the unfulfilled dreams and expectations we all deal with. Let’s just be realistic for a moment, understand and respect our own choices that led us to where we are today.

All we want is to be better isn’t it?

Relationships

Let’s think now about finding balance with regard to our close family relationships. Get over the past, focus on the present moment and find common ground with parents, children, and spouse.

My mother is never going to be the tender loving soul that hugs me all the time, but I can see now that she loves me in her own way.

My children are not going to follow my every instruction, but it’s also useful that they make their own mistakes, they have their own experiences.

As with the relationship with my husband … well he is probably never going to be the extrovert that brings me flowers and declares his devotion daily.

And it’s OK!

We need to explore the middle ground that leaves enough room for both sides to breathe and maintain their self-respect.

By all means, set a boundary but be equally prepared to respect the individuality of the other person – even if you gave birth to this person!

Outer world

It is also important to find balance in our relations with others, along the lines of office politics and even government politics. I know it is difficult sometimes, but it is imperative that we listen.

Listen to the different opinion, the strange idea, the far-fetched scenario. It takes patience and sometimes constraint but it’s necessary to listen.

I listen full of hope that the other person will then listen to me as well. Only then can we find common ground, or a common purpose, common parameters of any kind that will enable us to agree to a solution, a plan, a mutually beneficial consensus.

Finale

In order to be very honest, I would also like to add this:

I cannot really decide which is more difficult:  Peace with ourselves or peace with the others?

Peace inside would probably be a good starting point, I think.

Finding the right balance is something very important to me because I believe that this can help us avoid conflict, and elicit good relationships. It can promote progress and the synthesis of new ideas.

I wanted to write about this so we can all share this idea, and work together on finding balance and harmony in our lives.


 

I would like to thank LH ‘Daisy’ Johnson for reviewing the original form of this post, and offering valuable suggestions for it’s improvement.